Who is the better friend?
1.? A? ?Rich? friend that has $20 and gives you $10.
2.??A ?Poor? friend that has $10 and gives you $8.
On the surface it seems like the friend who gave you $10 is the better friend. This is because we live in a world where we judge everything based on the bottom line or net sum. But let?s examine this.
The rich friend gave you more money, but the poor friend gave you more of what they had.
Think about it this way. Just because you ?net? more doesn?t mean that you have more. Making $100,00 in a job that makes you miserable is not more than a $75,000 job that you love. Making love seven days a week to the person you?re dating can?t beat a simple conversation with the love of your life. Believe it or not: we still value things beyond a simple number or net sum. However, society forces us to recognize the opposite as being successful. Look at how this dichotomy plays out in our daily lives.
1. Rich Lover-?? A person can say, ?I love you? three time a day, but does that person shower you with constant love and affection? Your spouse can buy you the nicest things, but do they listen to you and make time for you? A couple can make passionate love five times a week, but do they get right up and leave after its over? Believe it or not- ?rich lovers? can spreadsheet relationships. Once this person recognizes your habits and desires, they can act accordingly. There is no heartfelt intent behind this person?s love. They have made no sacrifice. They haven?t given you a piece of their heart or denied themselves in some way. ?They are simply doing things so you won?t leave them. This is not love.
Poor Lover- This person will shower you with attention, listen to every detail when you speak, and remember the small things. They are spontaneous and they live to make you happy. They might only be able to afford the All-You-Can Eat buffet on Valentine?s Day- but you don?t care.? They?ve given you the priceless intangibles of love, time, and appreciation.
2. Rich Co-Worker-? A person can come to work on time, get all of their work completed, and be nice to everyone. They would be seen as a model employee who loved their job. But, do they really love their job? What if they actually hated it? What if they despised their work, but did enough to make more money and then leave?
Poor Co-Worker- A person who loves his or her job wouldn?t just care about finishing the work, but more about getting it right. They would join committees and groups to network. They would build strong work relationships with their co-workers and supervisors while learning more about the business.? They might not put up the incredible numbers, but their heart is in the correct place. This person is actually sacrificing their time -?which is a larger and more prominent part of giving.
3. Rich Life vs. Poor Life-? People have learned how to give without actually giving. The true measure of a friendship, bond, or anything that you care about is not only shown through a person?s actions, but through their sacrifice.? Don?t look at how much people give you. Look at how much they give of ?themselves.?
Please don?t think that I?m making a generalization abut people and money. My use of the terms ?rich? and ?poor? actually have little to do with money. There are plenty of rich people who give millions to charities and education (even giving well beyond their means). There are also many poor people who are vey guarded with their money and would never give to fundraisers, charities, or to help friends. ?I?m not speaking of poor and rich in monetary terms,?but in terms of sacrifice, time, and effort.
I?ve learned that people are ?rich? because they give LESS. Others are ?poor? because they give MORE. I?ve also noticed that if you give, then you will attract friends who give.
I have been blessed with great friends who have supported me through the years. They give of themselves no matter how much money they have. They give of their time if they have no time at all.? They exude happiness whether they are having a great day or the worse day on earth. All of this makes me very fortunate to have? poor friends who make my life very rich.
Now, I ask you again.
Rich Friend. Poor Friend. Which one are you?
Source: http://www.themastermindproject.com/2012/03/rich-friend-poor-friend-which-one-are-you/
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